26 Nov 2009
25 Nov 2009
One would have thought that it would be clear by now that I am not interested in spam... And yet they never give up, it seems.
24 Nov 2009
Games afternoon with friends on Sunday. Sundays are just such a great day for games! Had invited a group of people over, an interesting mix of people - some avid games players, some newbies. The game of choice? Well, this time it wasn't so much by choice, this time I really wanted to play my RoboRally game, the one I bought a while back - a great game! So I had advertised that this was what we were going to do, play RoboRally.
The brilliant thing about Roborally is that you can make it complicated but you can also play on chance because even if you need to "program" your robot there are so many unknown factors, like the other players pushing you or you pushing them, that it doesn't really matter, everybody has a chance to win. I was last for the longest time myself, even though I was the only one who had played this specific game.
It's funny though. Everybody was asked to bring some snack and I swear, especially the players not so used to playing had brought food for half an army. One friend brought bread on my request, but he brought three full loafs, AND a bunch of muffins. Except I try not to eat much bread and cakes myself (I simply feel better if I don't, me and my stomach are not the best of friends with things made of flower) and since he left the food I now have a full freezer. No, I am not going to throw it away. And some other people, also at the first games night, brought soft drinks. For a whole army too, three HUGE bottles. And I don't drink soft drinks either, or at least very rarely. I have asked them to stop by and pick it up but not very successfully. I guess I have to host another event soon and ask people NOT to bring any snacks. It's not supposed to be enough snacks from each an everybody to feed everybody, the trick is to combine. One bag of crisps, or one back of biscuits or peanuts or whatever would really have been enough. It gets embarrassing when so much food is brought! Although yes, everybody of course did it to be nice, it's just that everybody (at least the newcomers) seem to think that they are the only one bringing snacks. Guess I have to be even more clear on that next time...
OH, and then there is me... I am a food freak too... I worry so much that people will not have enough to eat. This time I had said before that they shouldn't come starving but also not full, I had planned to make some soup, and I did. A Carrot and ginger soup (similar to the one I have made before), with plenty of ginger, and with a touch of orange too. I used the biggest pot I have, except for the big thin one that I use for the Christmas ham, as that one is in the basement and I couldn't be bothered to go down there. But believe me, there was so much soup anyhow. And despite having so much soup, when we were finished, there was nothing left. It was all gone! Great, of course, I want my guests to like the food, but I was really concerned that I had made to little soup, until I realised that everybody took at least two full plates. And considering how much was left from the snacks they clearly weren't hungry afterwards... So it can't have been that I made to little.
How many we were? Eight.
23 Nov 2009
Anyone who knows me enough knows that I don't like to be categorised, put into a certain box and then "live up to expectations". I am who I am, take it or leave it (although yes, of course I try for other people), but I am certainly not what is often described in these silly jokes as a "typical woman".
Anyhow, these jokes, always the same type of jokes always indicating how women basically are bitches that are trying to control their stupid men, or about how men can't think and how men can't do this and that, are starting to get on my nerves. It is funny once if you don't think about what it actually means, and it may be funny 10 times, but it is not funny after 50 times, nor is it funny if you consider how they just continue to cement our views on female/male. It is just stupid.
And I don't know how to say so! We have had an argument about it before, where I said that I don't like these kind of jokes, I can't see the fun in them, but it seems it didn't click. When the jokes were directed towards me, I tried for a bit though. I can also take it if it is only us, but when the jokes just continues when there are people around that doesn't know me NOR this person, it really annoys me. I know this person is only trying to be funny and the fair thing would of course be, if it bugs me that much, to bring it up so that the person can stop it, or at least make an active choice to whether it is worth continuing down that path. But I don't know how, I simply don't! It is going to cause an argument, and I don't want to argue with my friends if it can be avoided. But it continues to get worse, and it has an impact on what other people think about me too - either because I have a lack of humor or because they think I am the person that this person is indicating, jokingly.
I am afraid that I will tell this person of good soon, and I don't want to. I want to tell the person nicely. The person is worth it.
Oh, dilemma! I am afraid I am in a situation that can only end in one way, badly. I'll just stay away for a bit and perhaps it will calm down, it is always better to say something when things are a bit less tense.
(Yes, I do have a sense of humour. But I don't like cheap ones, where the fun is at the cost of someone else. Joke about yourself. Don't joke about others, again and again and again and again. Continuous repeats are simply not fun)
Update: I told the person. It went REALLY bad, due to factors I had not realised were there. Ah, sometimes I wish I could just bite my tongue. But still, it was better to get it out in the open.
Also, I keep forgetting that there are cultural differences, I just expect everybody to think as I do. (Well, not quite, but I forget we have different backgrounds)
22 Nov 2009
OH, and I DO love comments, just not spam comments. When they are in a language I don't even understand they will certainly be rejected. Pity, perhaps that person had something very interesting to say?